Why So Many People Overshare

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Why So Many People Overshare

帖子 maltz » 2014-07-18, 22:57

The Real Reason Why So Many People Overshare on Facebook

http://www.slate.com/blogs/future_tense ... gh_in.html

By Paul Hiebert
Aug. 19 2013

Perhaps you’ve met a fellow dog walker at the park who, just six minutes into your first conversation, started talking about her teenage daughter’s menstrual cycle. Maybe you have a roommate who routinely shouts unsolicited updates from the bathroom every time he endures a marathon session on the toilet. These are oversharers. They comprise a certain percentage of the population that either doesn’t know what’s generally considered inappropriate to divulge—or simply doesn’t care.

When it comes to posting things on the Internet, however, it seems anyone and everyone is susceptible to oversharing. There’s apparently something alluring about filling those empty white boxes with embarrassing anecdotes—anecdotes that BuzzFeed then compiles and publishes in list form for everyone else to laugh at. Plus, judging by humor sites such as Lamebook, there doesn’t appear to be a scarcity of material to draw from, either. Even criminals can’t resist revealing incriminating evidence about themselves sometimes, and thus examples of TMI abound online.

But why? What compels us to tell the world with our fingers what we’d hesitate to utter in a room full of loved ones?

Social scientist and author Sherry Turkle thinks we’re losing a healthy sense of compartmentalization. Last year, researchers at Harvard found that the act of sharing our personal thoughts and feelings activates the brain’s neurochemical reward system in a bigger way than when we merely report the attitudes and opinions of others. Meanwhile, Elizabeth Bernstein of the Wall Street Journal asked around and concluded that our newfound urge to disclose is partially due to not only the erosion of private life through the proliferation of reality TV and social media[/b], but also due to our subconscious attempts at controlling anxiety.

“This effort is known as ‘self regulation’ and here is how it works,” she writes. “When having a conversation, we can use up a lot of mental energy trying to manage the other person’s impression of us. We try to look smart, witty, and interesting, but the effort required to do this leaves less brain power to filter what we say and to whom.

While all these viewpoints help us better understand the oversharing epidemic, they don’t exactly address how the Web itself entices us to expose information that we probably wouldn’t otherwise.

Some of the latest research to directly tackle this issue comes from professor Russell W. Belk, chair in marketing at York University in Toronto. In his most recent paper, “Extended Self in a Digital World,” which will appear in the Journal of Consumer Research this October, Belk argues that our relationship with social media is gradually creating a more complex idea of who we think we are as individuals. Through Pinterest, Instagram, and YouTube, whose former slogan was “Broadcast Yourself,” we construct our identities in a manner that has never before been possible.

“When we’re looking at the screen we’re not face-to-face with someone who can immediately respond to us, so it’s easier to let it all out—it’s almost like we’re invisible,” said Belk, of the so-called “disinhibition effect” that online sharing helps create. “The irony is that rather than just one person, there’s potentially thousands or hundreds of thousands of people receiving what we put out there.

As for the consequences of these actions, Belk writes:

The resulting disinhibition leads many to conclude that they are able to express their “true self” better online than they ever could in face-to-face contexts. This does not mean that there is a fixed “true self” or that the self is anything other than a work in progress, but apparently self-revelation can be therapeutic, at least with the aid of self-reflexive applications.

Just as a psychoanalyst’s couch or Catholic confessional booth are settings in which we can sort out the details of who we are by divulging our innermost secrets to someone without staring directly at him, Belk believes these sorts of exchanges are migrating onto the Internet:

[It appears] that we now do a large amount of our identity work online. For the Internet constantly asks us “Who are You?” “What do you have to share?” Coupled with new self-revealing proclivities, this incites more open self-extension than in a pre-digital world.

The feedback of friends, family members, acquaintances, and strangers therefore provides continual criticism and validation. Forging a personal identity, after all, is generally considered a collaborative effort.

Of course, some might point out that the perceived increase in oversharing is nothing more than that: a perception. In other words, it’s not that there’s an eruption of people willing to bare everything online; it’s that those who do typically post more status updates and garner more exposure on news feeds.

While difficult to measure, the Washington Post published a survey last spring stating that only 15 percent of American social media users feel they share either “everything” or “most things” online. That’s not a lot—especially considering that more than 60 percent of participants from Saudi Arabia admitted they belong in that same category. As the accompanying story implies, however, the survey doesn’t account for the vastly different cultures and social norms the various participants exist within. While tweeting about your aunt’s divorce might be considered taboo in one country, it might be received with a shrug in a nation inured to the antics of the Kardashians.

Still, something seems amiss when people feel it’s more important to express a desire on Facebook for the president to be assassinated than it is to, say, exercise tact or avoid losing your job. (Yes, she was fired.)

Another crucial ingredient encouraging online exhibitionism is, as stated by Belk, the “tension between privacy and potential celebrity.” For some people, the longing to be popular far outweighs the longing to be respected, and their social media accounts can verify this.

According to a 2010 study, playfully titled, “Examining Students’ Intended Image on Facebook: ‘What Were They Thinking?!’ ” Facebook users who didn’t mind if strangers could view their profile, as opposed to those who did, were “significantly more likely to post inappropriate content and to portray an image that would be considered sexually appealing, wild, or offensive.” In other words, they want everyone to think they’re cool.

As Jen Doll notes at the Atlantic Wire, “[N]o one gets criticized specifically for undersharing. No one says that word. People just say ‘boring.’”

In sum, the traditional line separating what’s private from what’s public is disintegrating with each and every overshare, and while some offenders may not be thinking about their actions this deeply, Belk’s research suggests it’s our ongoing quest for identity—or as some prefer to call it, “personal brand”—that’s propelling this disintegration. We want to be interesting. We want to be memorable. We want people to follow us, but we need their attention first. And if there’s one thing reality TV and advertising has taught us, it’s that the lowest common denominator is both the easiest and most efficient way of getting people to notice.

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Re: Why So Many People Overshare

帖子 maltz » 2014-07-18, 23:11

Why Do People Overshare On Facebook? Maybe They Just Want to Belong
http://www.bustle.com/articles/28405-wh ... -to-belong
Lucia Peters, June 2014

Nobody likes a social media oversharer, but the next time your super sensitive buddy from high school posts something dramatic on her Facebook timeline, you might want to think about cutting her a little slack. According to a new study, Facebook oversharers really just want to belong — and every time you roll your eyes at them or tell them to get over themselves, you’re really just invalidating them. Awwww.

The study, which was conducted by Gwendolyn Siedman of Albright College, looks at Facebook as the means through which people express their “true selves.” First coined in 2002, the “true self” is made up of the qualities in ourselves we’d like to be recognized for, but find ourselves unable to express in real life. Siedman’s new study found that people who felt they were more in touch with their “true selves” online were more likely to communicate with others on Facebook, disclose things about themselves on Facebook, and post emotional updates about the drama in their lives on Facebook. However, they’re also not totally aware they’re doing it: Says the study, “This expression of the true self… appears to operate at the unconscious level.” By posting sappy song lyrics or cryptic “Sometimes there’s just no pleasing anyone”-type status updates, they’re hoping to illicit care from their friends, thus inspiring a sense of belonging.

The fact that oversharing is indicative of a wish to belong is perhaps unsurprising — but what is of interest is how it piggybacks on a previous study. According to The Atlantic, the earlier study, which was also co-authored by Siedman, found that when people open themselves up and share personal stuff with their real life friends via email or IM, it can strengthen the relationship. This study, however, didn’t look at social networks; it only considered private means of online communication. According to the new study, the relationship strengthening effect doesn’t happen when the sharing occurs on Facebook — once it moves to a public forum, we hate it. So, even though the oversharing is intended to draw us closer to the person doing the posting, what it really does is push us away.

Why do we hate oversharers so much? I suspect is has something to do with what’s called ”emotional contagion.” Another recent study, this time by Cornell, the University of California San Francisco, and Facebook itself, showed that what’s in your newsfeed does affect how you feel. Said Jeff Hancock, co-director of Cornell’s Social Media Lab, “People who had positive content experimentally reduced on their Facebook news feed, for one week, used more negative words in their status updates. When news feed negativity was reduced, the opposite pattern occurred: Significantly more positive words were used in peoples’ status updates.” If we look at these findings in conjunction with the Albright College one, the picture that emerges looks kind of like this: Basically, we don’t like being around Debbie Downers on Facebook because their negativity makes us feel icky, too — and nobody likes to feel icky for no reason.

Of course, there’s an easy way out of all this complicated social media nonsense: Delete your Facebook account. YouTuber Matthias has some pretty strong feelings about why everyone should just go ahead and get off Facebook for good; true, his reasons are less about how your newsfeed makes you feel and more about the data and/or dirt Facebook collects on its users without most of us being aware of it… but hey, maybe it’s still worth considering.

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